@goatsarah she kept repeatedly accusing others of lacking empathy - which her own mother described as "laughable, because she doesn't have any empathy herself". Thankfully, people saw through her lies about me and she was banned from our local LGBT community. But it turned out very differently when I was 19 & still at uni, much less mature, and having inadvertently offended a covert N. Lesson learned: ask yourself how this person makes you feel, don't just listen to words.