@Arcana @ciel @Moon I think it happens, I think sometimes people are pressured in and maybe don't even realize that something was non-consensual or coerced until later on when they deal with the effects of feeling icky or damaged by the interaction, or struggle to have future sexual relationships and realize that a previous "consensual" session was to blame, and then rightly label that as them dealing with the aftermath of rape that they agreed to.

But I'd also agree that those situations do often get turned into "this person is my rapist we need to excommunicate them now!" when the person accused only has the memory of consensual sex that they didn't know was doing harm

Sexual assault is tricky and complicate with a lot of nuance which is why I personally stay away from being reductive about it with things like KYLR