honestly in a related thread with @Moon i was reminded that i was thinking about what id want from like a social media app, in this case what would i want as the "discord killer"

-vc, with screensharing with audio
-Free, open source
-ability to host your own servers from your machine
-ability to make custom emojis, and able to react with them
-~50mb filesize upload limit at the very least
-ability to have gifs as pfps
-ability to dm, call, and video with ppl
-ability to make bots for your own server p easily
-ability to have bots that communicate with other chat platforms such as irc, xmpp, matrix, discord, guilded, skype, etc
-ability to set custom bitrate for VC
-ability to hide blocked user messages on clientside
-available on linux, and bsd with no downsides (though if its free and open source they would have p good compatibility tbh)
-easy to use for non tech savvy ppl, so that it actually kinda takes off
ability to make custom color themes, and text roles/highlights
-ability to encrypt your own data so that it isn't gonna be sold to random advertisers

ik some other have better points than i do and im probably missing a few, essentially i want discord but not shit paywalls and more user customization, better linux/bsd experiences and the ability to DIY servers as an option