@inthehands you are very right about the social costs. When I think about times I haven't called out bigotry, I've either been rabbit-in-headlights stunned or afraid of repercussions. Either way, the social vulnerability has been strong enough to make me miss the chance. When I *have* called it out, I've either been in a socially powerful position or have carefully calculated my exit strategy. I'd like to be braver, but it's not easy. I have, at least, avoided active encouragement.