Shortly after that, the sever's official blog, posted an updated code of conduct that concerned me, not so much because of the conduct, but because of how quickly it went to deletions and bans unless one complied immediately. I am kind of mousey with my friends and I really was tight with the original admin, they seem like a nice person maybe in over their head, so I just subtweeted about it and ignored it at the time - this will come up later tho, so it's important:
https://writer.oliphant.social/oliphant/oliphant-social-code-of-conduct