marriage today is a very bad deal for men and still good for women
men's (https://mastodon.satoshishop.de/@mk/110890111821621157) and women's (https://mastodon.satoshishop.de/@mk/110657249027609833) preferences are not the same and didn't really change in the past 1000 years.
men still prefer wifing up virgins to ensure paternity (https://mastodon.satoshishop.de/@mk/110175192344992765).
women still prefer high-value-men that can protect her and provide for her (and the children).
most modern women are hoe's, but men still provide and protect.