@FinalOverdrive >men don't cease to be men, but let go of the entitlement to women's attention and bodies

I would argue that something like this would mean ceasing to be men, because to me male/female and man/woman are class relations (cf. Monique Wittig). It's similar to whiteness imo where whiteness is a socially constructed thing that doesn't actually have any real existence, and the abolition of whiteness doesn't mean like, genociding every person who is currently classified as "white" but rather it would mean a revolutionary shift in society where there are no longer classes of people who are slaughtered to maintain the ontology of whiteness or are enslaved or have their land and resources expropriated from them to maintain unsustainable modes of production.

though much like with race stuff, it's also kind of a lower priority for me to tell people who currently are men how they fit into this or how to get out of this class relation. there's a book by John Stoltenberg (Andrea Dworkin's partner throughout most of her life) who wrote a book called Refusing to Be a Man that is basically an attempt at answering this question from a man's perspective, although I haven't read it yet.