@RadLola Why go into complex evo psych when it's a result of obvious cultural processes?
1) women are dehumanised and vilified to justify exploitation
2) you can only love someone you see as a person and don't hate
3) being fucked by a man is dehumanising so fucking other men is taboo
4) therefore male sexuality is not able to normally and naturally develop as a two sided dynamic and instead it's being replaced by porn and it's one sided reenactment upon a woman
5) women are not taught to hate those who they are supposed to love so their sexuality is more normal and women react to the dynamic rather than images of dicks or whatever.. men aren't even dismembered into sexy body parts like women are for me to list anything else

So it makes sense that men don't react to something that doesn't resemble their favourite porn while women react to sexual stuff on the whole