im so tired of reading crazy stores of woman where the explicitly describe, even abuse where a man makes them bleeds, sends them to the fucking hospital then they go “ but its not abuse” like…… this is just a disturbing level of cognitive dissonance, total lack of any self preservation…how they hell do you get to this point ? [doesn’t excuse the abuser but what is going on in the brain…even babies have basic self preservation skills..like wtf]