@ikuo1000
I’m so sorry that you had that experience. That sucks.
What you’re describing is just what I’m talking about. Hearing “I’m hurting” from someone else is verbal, prefrontal cortex stuff. Of course it prompts an appropriate social form, not a visceral response.
Think how many times Black people said “police are violent, police are murdering us for sport,” but folks didn’t understand until they •saw• the video of George Floyd being murdered. Visceral. Lizard brain.