@taedryn Hm. It's hard to say for me because it wasn't one singular event. I definitely had a moment of final emotional crisis where I decided things had to be a different way, but I was out as non-binary already at that point. It fits with the narratives of a lot of egg crack stories, but I don't remember when it was (just...March 2020 or so?). But I'd also come out to my partner as "androgynous" somewhere in 2004 and then walked it back due to lack of social support.