@SuperSnekFriend
so I found the reason why it was fucking up for me (after 3 days of searching :kanna_suicide:)
Turns out by default realtek isn't supported cause it's kindova shit fucking NIC, but it's whats built in to this mobo so i'm dealing with it.

now. In the threads I perused. to find the solution finally.
98% were people going "omg i can't believe ur using that, if you aren't gonna take this seriously just get a different OS" or something of the nature.
not all of these were in reference to a NIC, some were just peoples general setups.

It was cancer, but I finally found my fix.
you need to enable an extra flag to get it to load realtek drivers.

It's like... in order to use truenas, you're probably semi-autist already, so it's not like they're gatekeeping anything, most just were being dicks for the sake of it.
if someone has (what you'd consider) shit parts you don't gotta be an ass, just tell them the solution, and then give them a suggestion for an upgrade or something :hinata_acid: