my serious thoughts on moderation and stuff is this: I've done it a lot in the past, I've done the being very reasonable bit and trying hard to be fair bit and the responding graciously to (typically) cis men patronising or insulting me while believing they are respectful, or thinking they can debate their way out of a ban. And what I learned is, sometimes, you just need to take the piss. Often, it means they skip the debate part and go straight to insulting you, and at least that's more honest