@es0mhi @dj3ei I think you miss a key problem with gendered shorthand.
It assumes gender is significant and should be mentioned.
What if the operator is non-binary?
Or trans?
What if their partner isn't the "other" gender?
Using "op" for "operator" simplifies and removes any risk of embarrassment or upset for both parties.
Just like "so" for "significant other" does.
It also removes the assumption that no "xyl" (wife) can ever also be an ham in her own right.