@WrenArcher The thing that's wild about it though is the disconnect. They literally interact with us daily and don't even notice, let alone care. But if they were told we're trans...oh, then suddenly it'd be different. Maybe even worse because we got away with it.
To hit the double word score, I'm nonbinary and letting people presume I'm a woman is itself a compromise for self protection. And I'm not even on HRT, so what they perceive as woman is really a slight shift in aesthetics.