This is *our* network.
Just because these tools are used for engagement and ad clicks on other social networks doesn't mean we need to use them for that purpose here.
Our social tools should serve our own social needs.
I *don't* need controversy or outrage in my life.
I *do* need connection, deep relationships, and community interaction.
If the tools serve *our* purposes, and are under *our* control, why wouldn't we use them?