I can’t stand crowded places in SF, partly because I dont feel like SF has the right infra for crowds and also the people who show up in crowds don’t know how to be in a crowd and it makes me very annoyed (mostly people from the burbs walking very slowly in Japantown on a weekend)
I feel like I’m among people I know when I’m walking quickly in New York (or Mumbai or Bangkok). The city makes sense. Being in a place that has food from anywhere in the world at any time makes sense to me, and places without that do not, to my brain
I suppose New York City doesn’t make sense to people whose primary world view and mode of the world is ‘need to travel about by car’ but
I probably feel similarly about places where you need to drive to go anywhere (it doesn’t make sense to me at all)