@dcc @veff
Questions of value are hard. The value of a relationship feels related.

Correctness of ideas, seems to be a non-starter. Because, everyone gets to pick their first truths. So, there is no way to synchronize. And, logical arguments cannot change someone's first truths.

What I sort of feel reading veff's post, is it reminds me that, I used to talk to people I hated, because I felt like they should keep being given a chance. And, you know what? I think it is perfectly valid to sort people out, on the basis of whether you love them, or hate them.

Why do we have emotions, if not to navigate these things that defy being sorted with logic, reason, and rules.