@mischievoustomato @gray @phnt @p @coldacid @hakui I think auto-restart shouldn't happen because it can be disruptive (at least I don't think they restart stuff like dbus, whole system would become unusable) and because if you get in the mindset of auto-restart it also pulls in the need to update configuration during packages updates as otherwise the restart would fail.
Debian is particularly horrible for this, since it's all synchronous it blocks all other updates, so on release upgrade it's a massive waste of time, and of course the prompt is probably still unable to do a diff + interactive merge.