@dansup a bit ironic. i identify as none of that except "vulnerable", sometimes. and perhaps "queer". it will be very ironic (and expected) if this message (my voice) does not get any kind of validation or celebration "without question"! like most men, too often i feel like i can only really feel this kind of love we all need so much if i get lucky enough to find a nice woman "for me".
granted, i believe no online space will ever make anyone feel real love.