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   Artemis (artemis@dice.camp)'s status on Monday, 05-Oct-2026 22:48:34 JST Artemis

   Having conversations with my brother who is recovering from the trauma of a toxic marriage & suffering severe autistic burnout & explaining to him that his 10 year old does NOT actually have to be understanding of him & why he can't be the father she feels she needs.

   *I'm* understanding & empathetic towards him, but his daughter does not have to pretend to be unaffected just because he's doing the best he can.

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     Artemis (artemis@dice.camp)'s status on Tuesday, 06-Oct-2026 00:11:34 JST Artemis

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     He did decide to have a child he wasn't actually equipped to raise with a woman he was locked in a mutually harmful marriage with.

     It was a somewhat coerced choice: the culture he was raised in *demands* people have children.

     It was still a choice, & his daughter has been through a lot of trauma & disruption in her life, & SHE is not obligated to give HIM sympathy.

     I'm sorry to say it, but kids don't have to forgive their parents for the choices they made, even if they were "doing their best"