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   AnungIkwe (anungikwe@spinster.xyz)'s status on Thursday, 10-Sep-2026 06:54:32 JST AnungIkwe
   Dating is inherently exclusionary, sir. Get used to it.
   No one wants your inverted rot slot.
   
   How is it not transphobic for someone's
   initial attraction towards me to suddenly
   disappear after finding out I'm trans?
   
   Reddit r/asktransgender
   u/Suitable-Buy-1923
   https://www.reddit.com/r/asktransgender/comments/1vmysog/how_is_it_not_transphobic_for_someones_initial/
   
   "I visually pass. I'll get approached irl and matched with
   online and people reject me after I disclose that I'm
   trans. It's really painful emotionally. I understand not
   wanting to date me if I don't look like what they're
   attracted to, but why does my trans status become a
   deal breaker if I otherwise look like their type? "
   
   The only two reasons I can see why not wanting a
   trans partner is somewhat valid is genital
   preference (which post-surgery wouldn't be an
   issue) and the wish to have biological children (not
   possible with certain
   combinations/circumstances).
   Such things should be disclosed respectfully tho.
   Immediately bolting when you say you're trans is
   very much transphobia."
   
   u/One-Organization970
   MtF I HRT 2/22/23 | FFS 1/03/24 | SRS 6/11/24 | .
   "I will note a lot of transphobic cis people just
   start saying there are still differences between
   trans and cis vaginas and so they still have a
   preference between the two. Shit's just stupid,
   101. Thank God I'm married and don't have to
   deal with all this. "
   
   r/asktransgender
   u/giraffegeo
   https://www.reddit.com/r/asktransgender/comments/l17a5w/how_is_it_not_transphobic_to_not_want_to_date_a
   
   "My question is how is it not transphobic to not want to date a trans person if they've gone through all necessary surgeries and injections to be undifferentiable from a cis person?"
   
   I am a cis gay guy and whenever I brought this up with my trans friends they all reacted weirdly and said that people have preferences which I kind of get but I just can't believe truly that someone wouldn't date a trans person only because of the fact that they can't have biological kids together. You guys all seem so fine with this and I don't want to tell you how to feel but I just think that's transphobic if the only reason you won't date someone is because they are trans, like just the thought of them being trans turns you off.
   How is it not transphobic for someone's
   initial attraction towards me to suddenly
   disappear after finding out I'm trans?
   
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     KeepTakingTheSoma (keeptakingthesoma@spinster.xyz)'s status on Thursday, 10-Sep-2026 07:01:34 JST KeepTakingTheSoma

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     @AnungIkwe Dating, relationships, marriage, sexual partners; all these are very discriminatory things. We find the best looking, smartest person we can that also wants us. Most of us prefer monogamous relationships and have no desire to share or include others, not even to make other people feel not left out. This is why the DIE agenda has to be pushed. It hates that some people are better at some things than others. It hates that we do some things in life with or for select people but not everybody. Remember in Brave New World having multiple sexual partners was encouraged.
     I've not forgotten that I was suspended on twatter in 2021 for saying that nobody should feel obliged to have sex with anyone to make them feel validated or included. This was reported as hate speech.
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     LaylaAlexandrovna (laylaalexandrovna@spinster.club)'s status on Thursday, 10-Sep-2026 18:17:43 JST LaylaAlexandrovna

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     • KeepTakingTheSoma

     @KeepTakingTheSoma @AnungIkwe X is insane. Twatter was even worse, yet still it's one of the most popular platforms!

     I got kicked off of X multiple times for equally innocuous statements and I don't recall how many times I was suspended from FB for the same.

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