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   Adrianna Tan (skinnylatte@hachyderm.io)'s status on Sunday, 05-Apr-2026 07:14:09 JST Adrianna Tan

   Just as I feel I only get ‘Thai spicy’ when I speak Thai, I feel I get a ‘Chinese hard’ massage also only when I speak Mandarin

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     Adrianna Tan (skinnylatte@hachyderm.io)'s status on Sunday, 05-Apr-2026 07:17:45 JST Adrianna Tan

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     When most people get a massage, I guess they’re looking for relaxation.

     When I get a massage, I’m looking for an old Chinese auntie or uncle with thumbs of steel to reach deep into my soul (and fascia).

     I get so angry at relaxing massages

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     Adrianna Tan (skinnylatte@hachyderm.io)'s status on Sunday, 05-Apr-2026 07:24:40 JST Adrianna Tan

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     The only massage place I liked in the Monterey area was one where people complained it was so painful they couldn’t sleep for days. I read that review and went right, that’s what I need! (It was.. fine. It was a moderately strong massage. In China / Thailand / Indonesia it would just be a normal massage)

     Bodywork is an important part of life in the places I’ve spent time.

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     Adrianna Tan (skinnylatte@hachyderm.io)'s status on Sunday, 05-Apr-2026 07:32:42 JST Adrianna Tan

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     The Mandarin / Cantonese linguistic split is interesting for different types of bodywork.

     I guess if I do ‘tie da’ (ti da) I’m speaking more to Cantonese practitioners. For acupuncture / deep tissue massage / cupping, more Mandarin.

     I always say that if you want to get stuff like this, best to get personal recs (I have a knack for researching and finding good ones). Getting a mediocre one is worse than not getting one. Getting a good one is really really good

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     Adrianna Tan (skinnylatte@hachyderm.io)'s status on Sunday, 05-Apr-2026 10:50:33 JST Adrianna Tan

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     • Dealy Stan

     @Devils_Rancher haha, they’ll do it at the Asian places but you have to specify

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     Dealy Stan (devils_rancher@beige.party)'s status on Sunday, 05-Apr-2026 10:50:34 JST Dealy Stan

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     @skinnylatte The few times I’ve had a massage I’ve told them “Pretend you hate these shoulder muscles and that you want to rip them off my body.” Most are reluctant to really dig in that hard.