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   Adrianna Tan (skinnylatte@hachyderm.io)'s status on Thursday, 19-Feb-2026 01:17:18 JST Adrianna Tan

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   • Sara Joy :happy_pepper:

   @sarajw plenty of brown parents do it though. They do have to do it to give their kids tools to know what they’re up against.

   Also, there’s far more community organization than people in Europe seem to perceive. POC aren’t just helpless here

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     Sara Joy :happy_pepper: (sarajw@front-end.social)'s status on Thursday, 19-Feb-2026 01:17:20 JST Sara Joy :happy_pepper:

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     I realise this hits very differently if you're parenting in a place that isn't so safe, or you're in a demographic that isn't safe.

     It must be hard to teach vigilance and values without scaring them. I can't imagine having either of my kids doing active shooter drills, or teach them how to safely respond to police, if they were someone with brown skin.

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     Sara Joy :happy_pepper: (sarajw@front-end.social)'s status on Thursday, 19-Feb-2026 01:17:21 JST Sara Joy :happy_pepper:

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     My kids have heard of him already. And the other bad man in Russia. They know Ukrainian children turned up in larger numbers at their school and Kita in the last few years.

     They know that Trump is rounding up people who have different skin colours to white. They have met trans friends of mine. They have friends with heritage from all over, lots of different shades of skin.

     You can be honest without scaring them or saying anything age-inappropriate.

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     Sara Joy :happy_pepper: (sarajw@front-end.social)'s status on Thursday, 19-Feb-2026 01:17:23 JST Sara Joy :happy_pepper:

     My youngest dressed up for Fasching (Carnival) today as a firefighter and told me what others wore.

     One was Harry Potter, and I was asked "Can we watch the films, are they scary?"

     "Umm, the first two films have monsters but you'd probably cope with them. But we'd have to get the films second hand. The writer turned mean, and doesn't need or deserve more money."

     "How mean?"

     "She's nasty about different people, and friends with other bad people, like Trump in America."