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   Kim Scheinberg (kims@mas.to)'s status on Thursday, 30-Oct-2025 13:26:55 JST Kim Scheinberg

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   • Urban Hermit

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   This is a tough one. I'm autistic, but I also grew up in an abusive household so "stress" is my normal and I don't function anywhere near as well without it

   Most of my life I couldn't write unless I was under deadline. Then I got a job working for an (invisibly to me) abusive boss (who I absolutely adored) and was nearly always ahead of schedule

   In my head it was the best job I ever had, but my body told another story

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     Urban Hermit (urban_hermit@mstdn.social)'s status on Thursday, 30-Oct-2025 13:26:56 JST Urban Hermit

     Thinking about this, because I have had to accept some hard choices and some of the people involved believe that stressing me will make me do things.

     I'm autistic. Stressing me is not a motivator. If anything it makes me freeze up. Is this an Autistic response, or an everybody response? And if everybody works worse when stressed, why is it the first thing anybody uses to try and motivate people?