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   Paul Cantrell (inthehands@hachyderm.io)'s status on Saturday, 25-Oct-2025 13:43:39 JST Paul Cantrell

   Agreed. Let’s Streisand Effect the heck out of this one. https://mastodon.social/@randahl/115432140956255162

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     Paul Cantrell (inthehands@hachyderm.io)'s status on Saturday, 25-Oct-2025 23:04:39 JST Paul Cantrell

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     To be clear, the point is not Reagan Was A Model To Follow Actually.

     The point is cognitive dissonance.

     Mr. Bill repeated this.
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     Paul Cantrell (inthehands@hachyderm.io)'s status on Saturday, 25-Oct-2025 23:47:34 JST Paul Cantrell

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     The very little I know (•very• little! grain of salt!) about getting people out of a cult is that arguing with them just makes them dig in — but gentle, persistent questioning that leads to ever-increasing cumulative cognitive dissonance can actually help them find their way out of the psychological maze. Repeated •questions• — just questions — sustained over time. Make the constructed reality require more and more work to maintain. Make the pile of nagging doubts get larger and larger. Be patient and be persistent.

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     Paul Cantrell (inthehands@hachyderm.io)'s status on Sunday, 26-Oct-2025 00:50:02 JST Paul Cantrell

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     • Susanna the Artist 🌻

     @superflippy

     A lot of folks out there making some really tough calls about when to stand by a loved one who’s caught up in the cult and went to walk away. I don’t envy anyone that decision.

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     Susanna the Artist 🌻 (superflippy@mastodon.xyz)'s status on Sunday, 26-Oct-2025 00:50:03 JST Susanna the Artist 🌻

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     @inthehands I remember reading this. And also to let the person know that you will be there for them no matter what. It makes it easier to leave if they know they have someone they can go to.