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   Wendy Nather (wendynather@infosec.exchange)'s status on Sunday, 14-Sep-2025 05:31:13 JST Wendy Nather

   Thinking a lot about this essay by Jacob Tobia: https://slate.com/culture/2025/09/men-male-violence-war-military-industrial-complex-feminism-masculinity-jacob-tobia.html

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     HTTP 1.1/418 Old Teapot Typewriter Font (rmd1023@infosec.exchange)'s status on Sunday, 14-Sep-2025 05:48:58 JST HTTP 1.1/418 Old Teapot Typewriter Font

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     @wendynather Interesting. I had a bunch of knee-jerk "no, that's not accurate" reactions, but whether or not that's accurate on my part, it doesn't matter if this is that guy's experience and what he's been seeing.

     I think guys are absolutely being shafted by this culture - I think top of the heap is ways that men are taught that anger is the only acceptable emotion to express and the lack of opportunity for boys/young men to learn more/better conflict resolution stuff.

     And unfortunately, the men's groups most loudly talking about the ways things are difficult for men (MRA etc) tend towards the incredibly toxic.

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     jbowles (jbowles@infosec.exchange)'s status on Sunday, 14-Sep-2025 05:57:05 JST jbowles

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     @wendynather breaks my heart the way we raise boys.

     I'm always reminded of this song https://music.youtube.com/watch?v=l-5aPNxv-pU&si=m3khhY7qOb5wVB-T