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   Adrianna Tan (skinnylatte@hachyderm.io)'s status on Saturday, 23-Aug-2025 01:31:12 JST Adrianna Tan

   The last time I saw my aunt in person, we both tried to shove $100 into the other person’s hands at the same time. It was the same note, and we laughed and exchanged the notes.

   I guess the exception to the gifting thing is I could probably have bought her a food gift. Like something really special.

   But giving a consumer item would be very weird.

   There’s something there around giving moms / aunts jewellery or handbags, maybe, but like ‘I’m going to give you a ticket to this event’ or ‘I am going to give you a random candle or sock’ would probably be met with confusion.

   https://hachyderm.io/@skinnylatte/115064554710180001

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     Adrianna Tan (skinnylatte@hachyderm.io)'s status on Saturday, 23-Aug-2025 01:44:22 JST Adrianna Tan

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     • Matt Campbell

     @matt American gift giving culture would not work if it also didn’t have the returns culture

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     Matt Campbell (matt@toot.cafe)'s status on Saturday, 23-Aug-2025 01:44:23 JST Matt Campbell

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     @skinnylatte I'm a white American, and I don't like American gift-giving culture. Of course, one factor is that I'm a nerd, so I'm hard to buy gifts for. Especially now that I'm an adult with money, if I want something, I'll just buy it myself.

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     Adrianna Tan (skinnylatte@hachyderm.io)'s status on Saturday, 23-Aug-2025 01:55:11 JST Adrianna Tan

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     • somcak

     @somcak oh yeah gift cards are great

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     somcak (somcak@beige.party)'s status on Saturday, 23-Aug-2025 01:55:12 JST somcak

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     @skinnylatte I usually give useful gift cards, like to grocery stores or a shop I know they go to. I grew up in a German immigrant led household, so gift giving is expected, but cash is considered tacky. But as a gift receiver I want something useful, so when gift baskets were a thing, my family knew to stuff it full of shelf stable groceries, which then freed up my money to spend on things I wanted. This then morphed into grocery store gift cards.