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   Nanoraptor (nanoraptor@bitbang.social)'s status on Tuesday, 05-Aug-2025 04:40:07 JST Nanoraptor

   What's that one bit of advice you'll tell anyone at the slightest hint that it's warranted. The thing you learned, the thing you believe so strongly you can't shaddup about it, the thing you have such deep experience in that you truly know your experience is meaningful and helpful most of the time.

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     Kim Scheinberg (kims@mas.to)'s status on Tuesday, 05-Aug-2025 04:40:06 JST Kim Scheinberg

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     The first year of the first kid's life destroys more marriages than any incompatibility about money, religion, etc

     Identity shift, loss of self, and change in priorities is traumatizing for both parents, to say nothing of the sleep deprivation. And it's devastating to each parent in very different ways, which makes it nearly impossible to empathize with one another

     It's temporary. Don't build parallel lives and don't let resentment set in or you're unlikely to come back from it

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     👩‍🦯The Blind Fraggle (fragglemuppet@fandom.ink)'s status on Tuesday, 05-Aug-2025 05:05:29 JST 👩‍🦯The Blind Fraggle

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     • bservies

     @bservies @NanoRaptor And also have a good excuse to take a little break.

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     bservies (bservies@twit.social)'s status on Tuesday, 05-Aug-2025 05:05:30 JST bservies

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     Just before starting work, drink a large glass of water. In about an hour you will have to pee, so stand up and go do that. On the way back, drink another large glass of water.

     At the end of your day, you will have been forced to get up and move most every hour, and you will be hydrated.

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     👩‍🦯The Blind Fraggle (fragglemuppet@fandom.ink)'s status on Tuesday, 05-Aug-2025 05:24:05 JST 👩‍🦯The Blind Fraggle

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     @moira @NanoRaptor I always tell myself that one, when someone shows you who they are, believe them. It's one of those things that sounds easy, but you wouldn't believe how hard it is when it comes to people you love or want to love.

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     Solarbird :flag_cascadia: (moira@mastodon.murkworks.net)'s status on Tuesday, 05-Aug-2025 05:24:06 JST Solarbird :flag_cascadia:

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     @NanoRaptor These are probably tied and often related:

     "When actions contradict words, the actions are the actual words, and the ones you need to believe."

     Directly related to this one:

     "When someone tells you something absolutely horrible they believe because they think it makes them look _good_, they have just told you who they are, and you need to fucking believe them."

     See also:

     "The hardest thing in the world is to get people to acknowledge unpleasant realities even when they are staring them right in the face."

     These are permutations of each other, and sometimes - rarely, but sometimes -one will work better than the other two.

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     👩‍🦯The Blind Fraggle (fragglemuppet@fandom.ink)'s status on Tuesday, 05-Aug-2025 05:29:21 JST 👩‍🦯The Blind Fraggle

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     @NanoRaptor "If there's nothing in your past worth forgetting, your life isn't worth remembering." I forgot where I read this quote, but it's stuck with me, and people have told me it's helped them before.

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     Nanoraptor (nanoraptor@bitbang.social)'s status on Tuesday, 05-Aug-2025 07:45:25 JST Nanoraptor

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     I like the XKCD one about how you'll continuously find people who are learning about a thing you know well for the first time, and by gods you can share in their joy.

     Doughnut Lollipop 【記録係】:blobfoxgooglymlem: likes this.
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     Bob Jonkman (bobjonkman@mastodon.sdf.org)'s status on Tuesday, 05-Aug-2025 12:34:44 JST Bob Jonkman

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     @MichaelPorter

     > sending a message in an attachment to an email instead of just putting the message in the text of the email.

     My pet peeve. There's an org that regularly sent me e-mail with a PDF attached that consisted of scanned images of something printed from a word processor.

     @SuperMoosie @NanoRaptor

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     Michael Porter (michaelporter@ottawa.place)'s status on Tuesday, 05-Aug-2025 12:34:45 JST Michael Porter

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     @SuperMoosie @NanoRaptor Yup, it’s a process. But it’s made easier if the person trying to convey an idea gives some consideration as to how it will be received in the first place.

     Too often I see people ticking the “I got it out of my head” box, without making sure the “This is understandable to people who are not me” box is ticked, too.

     Not to mention the “I made it easy for the other person to receive the message” aspect. Perfect everyday example - sending a message in an attachment to an email instead of just putting the message in the text of the email.

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     Supermoosie (supermoosie@mastodon.au)'s status on Tuesday, 05-Aug-2025 12:34:46 JST Supermoosie

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     @MichaelPorter
     Good communication is not just one way. It is two way.

     You should check back with the person communicating to make sure you have understood it correctly and get them to confirm.

     @NanoRaptor

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     Michael Porter (michaelporter@ottawa.place)'s status on Tuesday, 05-Aug-2025 12:34:47 JST Michael Porter

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     @NanoRaptor Good communication isn’t about getting ideas out of your head, it’s about getting them into others’.

     From my teacher perspective - “Yes, I taught the material. But did they *learn* it?”

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     MCDuncanLab (mcduncanlab@mstdn.social)'s status on Tuesday, 05-Aug-2025 16:28:58 JST MCDuncanLab

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     A formatting trick to prevent editing the wrong document when working with multiple documents.

     https://mstdn.social/@MCDuncanLab/114710373080257157

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     MCDuncanLab (mcduncanlab@mstdn.social)'s status on Tuesday, 05-Aug-2025 16:30:17 JST MCDuncanLab

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     Many people approach formalized help wrong-eg thesis committees in graduate school. Really, it’s free help—don’t try to prove you don’t need help.

     https://mstdn.social/@MCDuncanLab/112067733774580003

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     levampyre (levampyre@chaos.social)'s status on Tuesday, 05-Aug-2025 16:30:41 JST levampyre

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     @NanoRaptor Read and understand the document before you sign it.

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     Steve's Place (steter@mastodon.stevesworld.co)'s status on Tuesday, 05-Aug-2025 16:31:23 JST Steve's Place

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     • Cradock

     @cradock @NanoRaptor Especially duct tape.

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     Cradock (cradock@mastodon.sdf.org)'s status on Tuesday, 05-Aug-2025 16:31:28 JST Cradock

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     @NanoRaptor Flip over the end of the adhesive tape when you cut/tear off a piece. It’s a gift from present you to future you - or anyone.

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     Dr. Amy, Psy.D. (dramypsyd@ohai.social)'s status on Tuesday, 05-Aug-2025 16:32:32 JST Dr. Amy, Psy.D.

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     @NanoRaptor If you suddenly start experiencing a haunting, check for a CO leak before you call an exorcist

     (Edit because I had a brain fart)

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     Adventurer In California (adventurer@sfba.social)'s status on Tuesday, 05-Aug-2025 16:35:34 JST Adventurer In California

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     @NanoRaptor
     Don't quit a job without a new one lined up.

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     cognitively accessible math (geonz@mathstodon.xyz)'s status on Tuesday, 05-Aug-2025 16:35:46 JST cognitively accessible math

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     @NanoRaptor
     Getting enough sleep is amazing. JUST AMAZING.

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     mizblueprint (mizblueprint@mastodon.online)'s status on Tuesday, 05-Aug-2025 16:35:53 JST mizblueprint

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     If you live in an earthquake region, retrofit your house foundation. (It's way more cost effective than trying to get - or make a claim on - earthquake insurance.) Also, retrofit your commercial building. Ask local and state government to retrofit bridges and infrastructure.

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     your auntifa liza 🇵🇷 🦛 🦦 (blogdiva@mastodon.social)'s status on Tuesday, 05-Aug-2025 16:36:17 JST your auntifa liza 🇵🇷 🦛 🦦

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     the people who make #fascism possible are not the hard-core minority of true believers. it’s the majority of corruptible cynics who will do anything for a buck.

     that’s what we are seeing unfold right here, right now, in the United States.

     @NanoRaptor

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     AccordionBruce (accordionbruce@mastodon.social)'s status on Tuesday, 05-Aug-2025 16:36:41 JST AccordionBruce

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     Finally thought of one

     If you’re making paper-mâché

     Soak two-ply cardboard from any recycling bin in water for a few minutes and you can pull the layers apart into super heavy duty leather-like kraft paper worth hundreds of dollars if you tried to buy it somewhere on a roll or something

     You can make your project with a few layers of this that feels almost like fiberglass

     Totally different level than what we did in school with newspaper. Who even has newsprint anymore?
     #puppets

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     Ahimsa (ahimsa_pdx@disabled.social)'s status on Tuesday, 05-Aug-2025 16:37:11 JST Ahimsa

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     Stop questioning people when they tell you something about their health status. Just believe them and listen to them.

     First, most folks won't talk about their health often. They're more likely to lie, to pretend to be well, because most folks do not deal well with illness, esp. chronic or terminal illness.

     Second, you can't possibility know someone's health status just by looking at them. And unless you live with them you only see a tiny slice of their life.

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     T&P (3dogcouch@mas.to)'s status on Tuesday, 05-Aug-2025 16:38:01 JST T&P

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     @NanoRaptor When you move, put a pair of sheets & towels & overnight bag in your car & make the bed as soon as it comes off the truck so you can shower & fall into it when the truck is empty.

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     tlariv@mastodon.cloud's status on Tuesday, 05-Aug-2025 17:00:46 JST tlariv

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     Yes, the mashed potatoes need more butter.