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   SaraMG 🏳️‍🌈 :bisexual_flag: (saramg@fosstodon.org)'s status on Tuesday, 15-Jul-2025 05:01:43 JST SaraMG 🏳️‍🌈 :bisexual_flag:

   I've been pretty sure I had ADHD for decades, but I always took it as "So what? Knowing you're broken doesn't do shit." Only treatment I ever saw that wasn't therapy was my little brother taking Ritalin and he turned into a zombie.

   So I did a LOT of therapy, and it never helped.

   Then people I know (and we chaos goblins do congregate, especially in tech), started taking Lisdexamfetamine (Elvanse/Vyvance) and I saw it change their gods damned world.

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     SaraMG 🏳️‍🌈 :bisexual_flag: (saramg@fosstodon.org)'s status on Tuesday, 15-Jul-2025 05:01:39 JST SaraMG 🏳️‍🌈 :bisexual_flag:

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     • Tiffany

     @bryanredeagle @Tylae

     > the therapist didn't realize [wife] didn't know she had it.

     Ran into this in my reading. You kinda don't know what you don't know, until someone you love shows you. Two of my girlfriends latched onto it when their other girlfriend got herself sorted, and that pushed both their wife, and me into figuring shit out. One big poly cascade of mental health. (Possibly needs a graph to cover properly.)

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     goatsarah (goatsarah@thegoatery.dyndns.org)'s status on Tuesday, 15-Jul-2025 05:01:39 JST goatsarah

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     @saramg @Tylae @bryanredeagle one of the girlfriends decloaks

     I’m so utterly pleased that the lisdex works for you. You more than deserve a break.

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     Bryan Redeagle :bc: (bryanredeagle@beige.party)'s status on Tuesday, 15-Jul-2025 05:01:40 JST Bryan Redeagle :bc:

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     @saramg @Tylae That's terrible. I'm sorry that that happened.

     My son actually exhibited symptoms usually found in girls (inattentive style). So his teachers just thought he was being lazy. It wasn't until he was talking to a therapist that we learned he had ADHD, and my wife found out she had it at the same time because the therapist didn't realize she didn't know she had it.

     Then we spent a year and a half fighting doctors and schools about the matter.

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     SaraMG 🏳️‍🌈 :bisexual_flag: (saramg@fosstodon.org)'s status on Tuesday, 15-Jul-2025 05:01:41 JST SaraMG 🏳️‍🌈 :bisexual_flag:

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     @bryanredeagle @Tylae The thing about my brother getting the dx and not me is that I can see really clearly in hindsight that the goal wasn't helping him. The goal was getting him to STFU and sit still. (btw, have I mentioned my parents were monsters?)

     Also, turns out the manifested symptoms are really different in boys vs girls, so I can't even be particularly surprised that nobody saw it.

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     Bryan Redeagle :bc: (bryanredeagle@beige.party)'s status on Tuesday, 15-Jul-2025 05:01:42 JST Bryan Redeagle :bc:

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     @saramg @Tylae This sounds a lot like my wife. She was diagnosed about two years ago. They tend to miss it in kids that aren't bouncing off the walls, which was her and one of our kids (two of our kids have it).

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     SaraMG 🏳️‍🌈 :bisexual_flag: (saramg@fosstodon.org)'s status on Tuesday, 15-Jul-2025 05:01:43 JST SaraMG 🏳️‍🌈 :bisexual_flag:

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     So I got a formal diagnosis (two, actually) and an Rx, and started taking it four days ago (at a lowish, introductory dose).

     I'll quote:
     "Holy Shit. Holy Shit, @Tylae . Vyvance is the shit."

     "Wait. I can just... remember things?"

     "I'm not an unlovable piece of shit?"

     "I can just... Do stuff without building a wall of awful?"

     "It's NOT my fault my dad was an abusive drunk?"

     "I don't have to use food to fill the void in my heart?"

     "I can be around large groups of people sober?"