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   snacks (snacks@netzsphaere.xyz)'s status on Friday, 27-Jun-2025 21:09:49 JST snacks
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     snacks (snacks@netzsphaere.xyz)'s status on Friday, 27-Jun-2025 22:13:04 JST snacks

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     @vivi feeling like i can't open to people and can't form close relationships (not actually true, just hard and i can just loose that closemess easily again and apparently it doesn't look the same from the other side?), other despair about future relationships being hard to come by. Work sucking for the past week because having to work on smth that probably isn't fixable but i don't really understand these parts of the 40y old multi million loc mostrosity so pretty insecure.
     I tried getting off my phone more so i actually have time for boredom, turns out that occupying my brain 24/7 was actually suppressing a lot of thoughts and feelings.
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     vivi (vivi@misskey.bubbletea.dev)'s status on Friday, 27-Jun-2025 22:13:05 JST vivi

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     @snacks@netzsphaere.xyz r u ok?

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     vivi (vivi@misskey.bubbletea.dev)'s status on Friday, 27-Jun-2025 23:46:46 JST vivi

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     @snacks@netzsphaere.xyz that sounds rough im sorry man i know how you feel i super get the future relationship i feel very pessimistic abt stuff like that too :hugs145: why is it hard for you to form close relationships? hard to find anyone who you think is worth it? or scared of opening up? or smth else

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     snacks (snacks@netzsphaere.xyz)'s status on Friday, 27-Jun-2025 23:50:07 JST snacks

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     @vivi seems like it just takes forever for me to develop feelings for anyone regardless of opening up even tho that's kinda hard too.
     Also realized i don't like hookups/casual sex so i really can't do the normie thing of just fucking around till something sticks (at least that seems to be how "normal" people approach dating?)
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     snacks (snacks@netzsphaere.xyz)'s status on Saturday, 28-Jun-2025 01:55:25 JST snacks

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     @vivi listening to stories from my dad and some other older ppl it seems to at least have been common
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     vivi (vivi@misskey.bubbletea.dev)'s status on Saturday, 28-Jun-2025 01:55:26 JST vivi

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     @snacks@netzsphaere.xyz is that the normie way? or the normie guy way? i never got that impression for this being how to date period, I did however get the impression that that was the meta from some dating apps
     
     do you know if all of them are like that? it seems to be kind of expected that youre looking for a hook-up on tinder, but i think other ones dont have the same rep? like bumble or hinge (or muzz, mashalllah 🤲)

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     vivi (vivi@misskey.bubbletea.dev)'s status on Saturday, 28-Jun-2025 01:55:40 JST vivi

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     @lucy@netzsphaere.xyz @snacks@netzsphaere.xyz but fedi is so slow and unoptimized... its a game of chance whether you even meet a new person and you have no good way of knowing if they are single or not beforehand. also snacks is a guy how many straight girls are actually on here, i feel like its not that much

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     :blobcatflower: (methyltheobromine@netzsphaere.xyz)'s status on Saturday, 28-Jun-2025 01:55:42 JST :blobcatflower:

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     @vivi @snacks all dating apps are hookup apps. The closest to an actually working dating platform there is seems to be fedi unironically
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     vivi (vivi@misskey.bubbletea.dev)'s status on Saturday, 28-Jun-2025 01:56:44 JST vivi

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     @lucy@netzsphaere.xyz @snacks@netzsphaere.xyz you know what actually i could forgive all of that but the lack of proximity is probably the most unoptimized thing abt it

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     EmoDagda (dagda@netzsphaere.xyz)'s status on Saturday, 28-Jun-2025 03:21:29 JST EmoDagda

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     @lucy @vivi @snacks
     not true on Duolicious for example you get the chat anxiously for 2 days and get permanently ghosted afterwards experience
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