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   Aaron (hosford42@techhub.social)'s status on Saturday, 17-May-2025 11:22:59 JST Aaron

   • Miakoda
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   @zakalwe @hellomiakoda @actuallyautistic @pathfinder For me it's entirely about repetitive or abrasive noises. Things that steal my attention. Babies babbling doesn't do that to me, but dogs barking, basses thumping, people sniffing, music I'm not actively listening to, engines revving, water dripping, clocks ticking, and babies screaming all shut down my brain to the point that I can't form a thought. It's a startle reaction that doesn't taper off over time. I had a really hard time when my kiddos were little and would cry. Sometimes, I would end up crying with them, "I Am Sam" style.

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     Miakoda (hellomiakoda@pdx.social)'s status on Saturday, 17-May-2025 11:22:56 JST Miakoda

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     @hosford42 @pathfinder @zakalwe @actuallyautistic One of the reasons I'm thankful I can change my own. 🤣️

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     Aaron (hosford42@techhub.social)'s status on Saturday, 17-May-2025 11:22:57 JST Aaron

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     @pathfinder @zakalwe @hellomiakoda @actuallyautistic It is definitely extra difficult, but I would still say totally worthwhile. Diapers were difficult because I had to not puke. Crying was difficult because I couldn't think. But I got the hang of it and found coping mechanisms, and as my kids got older, they learned what hurts me and what doesn't, and (unlike the rest of the universe) they actually care enough to be respectful of those needs. So really it was only the first few years that were hard.

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     Kevin Davy (pathfinder@beige.party)'s status on Saturday, 17-May-2025 11:22:59 JST Kevin Davy

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     @hosford42 @zakalwe @hellomiakoda @actuallyautistic
     As much as it was never really an option, aromantic and ace, and as much as I may regret it somewhat, I can't imagine the sensory agony of having to raise children. It feels like it would be like living in a building site, that never stopped. Almost, beyond endurance. :bear_hugs: