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   Kate Morley (kate@fosstodon.org)'s status on Thursday, 13-Mar-2025 23:22:46 JST Kate Morley

   When I watched Star Trek: The Next Generation as a teenager, I thought Troi’s character was superfluous, always stating the obvious (“he seems agitated”, “you need to process these strong emotions”). Watching it again twenty-five years later I now realise the vital role she plays as a kind of interpreter, helping the male bridge crew deal with their lack of emotional intelligence.

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     Chris Were ⁂🐧📰🌱☕ (chriswere@toot.wales)'s status on Thursday, 13-Mar-2025 23:22:44 JST Chris Were ⁂🐧📰🌱☕

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     • blausand 🐟

     @kate @blausand I hear this said a lot, but I honestly have to wonder how true it is in reality. I'm quite a soft guy, and I've never really been chastised for showing softer emotions - and I've definitely been made fun of for showing anger. Maybe I was lucky in my environment, but sometime I can't help but think that it's excuses for emotionally stunted men.

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     Kate Morley (kate@fosstodon.org)'s status on Thursday, 13-Mar-2025 23:22:45 JST Kate Morley

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     • blausand 🐟

     @blausand I would never declare emotional intelligence to be an innately or exclusively female skill. It is, however, something that tends to be cultivated and praised in girls but discouraged in boys, who are often told that showing emotion (with a few exceptions, such as anger) makes them “feminine” or even “gay”. Considering this environment, it’s unsurprising that women often find themselves acting as emotional interpreters for men.

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     blausand 🐟 (blausand@chaos.social)'s status on Thursday, 13-Mar-2025 23:22:46 JST blausand 🐟

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     @kate
     Since I learned what it means to be a feminist, I wonder why declaring emotional intelligence as exclusively female skill isn't considered as deeply sexist.
     Incenting males for Kindergarten.edu is so much of a better move IMHO.