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   ⚡🔌ℂlaire 𝔻anielle ℂassidy☀️ (lasermistress@mstdn.social)'s status on Thursday, 27-Feb-2025 05:42:36 JST ⚡🔌ℂlaire 𝔻anielle ℂassidy☀️

   Don't have big articulation at the moment

   But the number of folks around me who have declared vocally, randomly, and with an energy I had never previously seen

   that "I know I need to do community now"

   In the past three weeks

   When what they did is show up to one thing and paid attention to other people a bit and are clearly pushing themselves to open up just a bit

   when it's so shockingly little compared to what many women/organizers I know are doing

   Is feeling weird man

   Like cool, but 😅

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     ⚡🔌ℂlaire 𝔻anielle ℂassidy☀️ (lasermistress@mstdn.social)'s status on Thursday, 27-Feb-2025 05:42:32 JST ⚡🔌ℂlaire 𝔻anielle ℂassidy☀️

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     - CONSISTENCY is more important than fun ideas or expecting happiness or fun or any big fun plans. And, likely, NO ONE will help you with that consistency, at first, for a while. Be so patient. Be your own best company. Trying to be in a community can often feel extra lonely. Keep going 💖

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     ⚡🔌ℂlaire 𝔻anielle ℂassidy☀️ (lasermistress@mstdn.social)'s status on Thursday, 27-Feb-2025 05:42:33 JST ⚡🔌ℂlaire 𝔻anielle ℂassidy☀️

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     - For people who lead more or who follow more, it's probably going to feel unsexy to everyone when it's working. Stability often feels calm and boring. This can clash with many attachment desires, sensory needs, especially for neurospicy or struggling folks. KEEP GOING ANYWAY. Stay the course.

     Kit Rhett Aultman repeated this.
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     ⚡🔌ℂlaire 𝔻anielle ℂassidy☀️ (lasermistress@mstdn.social)'s status on Thursday, 27-Feb-2025 05:42:34 JST ⚡🔌ℂlaire 𝔻anielle ℂassidy☀️

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     That write up includes:

     Non-intuitive suggestions for gathering people for resilience:

     - Learn to be selfish. People who give so much that they gather people to foster togetherness tend to have strong fawning and pleasing characteristics. This is a super-duper power, but you must learn to take as much, more than you give. This may take time. Keep going.

     - You can start now, extremely imperfectly, extremely small.

     - You've probably already started. Don't discount the boring existing things.

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     ⚡🔌ℂlaire 𝔻anielle ℂassidy☀️ (lasermistress@mstdn.social)'s status on Thursday, 27-Feb-2025 05:42:35 JST ⚡🔌ℂlaire 𝔻anielle ℂassidy☀️

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     I'm not an expert for what you and the people around you need but I've been dedicated to this for quite a while and I write about it sometimes.

     "A small Guide to starting Community (and Mutual Aid.)"

     Sorry for the link display if it shows up. I can't do anything about it. Everything I put in Patreon is open, free, always, and a stable link to share.

     https://www.patreon.com/posts/small-guide-to-115737575