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   Chroniques autistes 🇨🇦 (adelinej@piaille.fr)'s status on Wednesday, 19-Feb-2025 05:06:48 JST Chroniques autistes 🇨🇦

   A new discovery for me about #ADHD and clutter: clutter in motion and clutter in stasis thanks to this 5 minute video from How to ADHD.

   How to deal with clutter when you have ADHD:

   https://youtu.be/0mCr5tqtiMg?si=nmniW3fjXMpHBUZW

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     Miakoda (hellomiakoda@pdx.social)'s status on Wednesday, 19-Feb-2025 05:06:39 JST Miakoda

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     @adelinej
     I can focus with seemingly infinite supply. What I can't do is pick the "on what?" part!

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     Chroniques autistes 🇨🇦 (adelinej@piaille.fr)'s status on Wednesday, 19-Feb-2025 05:06:41 JST Chroniques autistes 🇨🇦

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     “For twenty years, I thought I had a deficit of attention. I mean, it’s in the name of my diagnosis: attention deficit disorder. Brains need a full tank of attention to work properly, so I must be a few quarts low. Right?

     Wrong. The reality is, we have plenty of attention. What we lack is the ability to regulate our attention. You know how lizards can’t internally regulate their body temperature? ADHD brains have difficulty regulating their focus (and emotions, and sleep, and…okay, yep, we’ll get to that later).“

     How to #ADHD
     Jessica McCabe

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     Chroniques autistes 🇨🇦 (adelinej@piaille.fr)'s status on Wednesday, 19-Feb-2025 05:06:42 JST Chroniques autistes 🇨🇦

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     “What allows us to keep going when the failures pile up is the encouragement of others. It’s like the quarters you use to keep playing an arcade game after you run out of lives.
     Sometimes, someone says something so perfect, so powerful, that it’s like a magical quarter—one you can use again and again.“

     How to #ADHD
     Jessica McCabe

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     Chroniques autistes 🇨🇦 (adelinej@piaille.fr)'s status on Wednesday, 19-Feb-2025 05:06:43 JST Chroniques autistes 🇨🇦

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     “Spending time with people whose brains work the way yours does is an incredible experience. The shame begins to fall away, and we begin to see ourselves through one another’s eyes—as the funny or talented or curious or ambitious humans we are, with struggles that are perfectly normal—because while they might not make sense to those who are neurotypical, they are normal when you have #ADHD.“ (Same goes for autism. ❤️)

     How to ADHD
     Jessica McCabe

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     Chroniques autistes 🇨🇦 (adelinej@piaille.fr)'s status on Wednesday, 19-Feb-2025 05:06:44 JST Chroniques autistes 🇨🇦

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     “For those without enough supports, #ADHD can be a nightmare. They constantly need to defend themselves against criticism and shame from their families and friends. They burn out at work and struggle through tasks that everyone tells them “should” be easy. They take longer to succeed, and it comes at a much greater cost.“

     How to ADHD
     Jessica McCabe

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     Chroniques autistes 🇨🇦 (adelinej@piaille.fr)'s status on Wednesday, 19-Feb-2025 05:06:45 JST Chroniques autistes 🇨🇦

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     “So we learn to mask our #ADHD behaviors and do what’s expected of us—be quiet, sit still, pay attention—when we’re in public. We pay the price later—melt down, feel exhausted, stare blankly at a wall, or scroll through social media for hours just trying to recharge.
     Even when others are aware of our diagnosis, we’re often taught how to hide our struggles rather than effectively cope with them."

     How to ADHD
     Jessica McCabe

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     Chroniques autistes 🇨🇦 (adelinej@piaille.fr)'s status on Wednesday, 19-Feb-2025 05:06:46 JST Chroniques autistes 🇨🇦

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     “How could a condition that is so well known be so poorly understood? Why were so many of us still struggling so much, even after years or decades of diagnosis and treatment? And why were so many people learning about their medical condition for the first time from some college dropout on YouTube?” (How to #ADHD, Jessica McCabe)

     (I know, I know for the “medical condition“ terms 🙄)

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     Chroniques autistes 🇨🇦 (adelinej@piaille.fr)'s status on Wednesday, 19-Feb-2025 05:06:47 JST Chroniques autistes 🇨🇦

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     • Dr. Amy, Psy.D.

     I’m reading her book How to #ADHD, following a comment made by @dramypsyd in an another thread, and I recognized myself so much in chapter 1.

     “These judgments—even once I learned how inaccurate they are, even now that I understand the biology behind the invisible obstacles I kept tripping over and blaming myself for—are long solidified by decades of neural pathways wiring together and firing together.“ (Jessica McCabe)

     https://howtoadhdbook.com/

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     Miakoda (hellomiakoda@pdx.social)'s status on Wednesday, 19-Feb-2025 05:08:23 JST Miakoda

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     • Hans-Cees 🌳🌳🤢🦋🐈🐈🍋🍋🐝🐜

     @hanscees
     @adelinej

     I'm not an expert, but I'm wondering if ADHD is more a profile of autism, the way PDA is

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     Hans-Cees 🌳🌳🤢🦋🐈🐈🍋🍋🐝🐜 (hanscees@ieji.de)'s status on Wednesday, 19-Feb-2025 05:08:24 JST Hans-Cees 🌳🌳🤢🦋🐈🐈🍋🍋🐝🐜

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     @adelinej same with autism. didnt know adhd included emotion things as well. Thanks for pointing that out

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     Chroniques autistes 🇨🇦 (adelinej@piaille.fr)'s status on Wednesday, 19-Feb-2025 05:08:25 JST Chroniques autistes 🇨🇦

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     “Most parents of ADHD children have observed the phenomenon called after-school restraint collapse, where their child comes home from school and melts down. After a long day of trying to hide their symptoms and stifle their emotions, they all erupt to the surface. In adults, psychological symptoms like irritability, mood swings, or even panic attacks can occur. Physical symptoms like sleeplessness, chronic pain, gastrointestinal problems, and even sexual dysfunction can result when you persistently suppress intense emotions.“

     How to #ADHD
     Jessica McCabe

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     Chroniques autistes 🇨🇦 (adelinej@piaille.fr)'s status on Wednesday, 19-Feb-2025 05:08:26 JST Chroniques autistes 🇨🇦

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     “Unfortunately, like most people with ADHD (and many doctors who treat ADHD), I didn’t know that emotion dysregulation was part of the deal because the DSM doesn’t list it as part of the diagnostic criteria“

     “This is the reason people with ADHD are often misdiagnosed with mood disorders, and why we don’t get the support we need even once we’re diagnosed correctly: we don’t know the extent to which our struggle with emotions isn’t normal. Emotions hit us harder and faster, and take us under, in ways most medical providers, teachers, and loved ones don’t understand.“

     How to #ADHD
     Jessica McCabe

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     Miakoda (hellomiakoda@pdx.social)'s status on Wednesday, 19-Feb-2025 05:12:27 JST Miakoda

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     @adelinej
     If my brain doesn't want to focus on something, there is nothing I can do to force it. Trying to force it makes it worse and very quickly exhasuts me.
     If you held a gun to my head, "Focus on [thing brain doesn't want to focus on] or die!", I'm dead. 100%, I'm dead.

     Hyperbole? Look at the fact capitalism constantly threatens me like this, just less instant, and I can't do it.

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     Miakoda (hellomiakoda@pdx.social)'s status on Wednesday, 19-Feb-2025 06:49:33 JST Miakoda

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     • Hans-Cees 🌳🌳🤢🦋🐈🐈🍋🍋🐝🐜

     @adelinej
     @hanscees

     Yet there are some differences. My bestie and I are both AuDHD, but she seems to lean heavier towards the ADHD side, and I towards the autism side. But those leanings are like 10% of the situation.

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     Chroniques autistes 🇨🇦 (adelinej@piaille.fr)'s status on Wednesday, 19-Feb-2025 06:49:34 JST Chroniques autistes 🇨🇦

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     • Hans-Cees 🌳🌳🤢🦋🐈🐈🍋🍋🐝🐜

     @hellomiakoda @hanscees The more I read about both, the less I see differences between autism and ADHD.

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     Hans-Cees 🌳🌳🤢🦋🐈🐈🍋🍋🐝🐜 (hanscees@ieji.de)'s status on Wednesday, 19-Feb-2025 08:07:57 JST Hans-Cees 🌳🌳🤢🦋🐈🐈🍋🍋🐝🐜

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     @hellomiakoda @adelinej I am wondering if I have a mild case of the pda thingy. Is that possible?

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     Miakoda (hellomiakoda@pdx.social)'s status on Wednesday, 19-Feb-2025 08:09:16 JST Miakoda

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     • Hans-Cees 🌳🌳🤢🦋🐈🐈🍋🍋🐝🐜

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     @adelinej

     I dunno. But reexamine "mild", and try to see how it manifests. My "mild" wasn't mild once I had a better understanding of how it manifests.