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   Adrianna Tan (skinnylatte@hachyderm.io)'s status on Tuesday, 18-Feb-2025 15:48:23 JST Adrianna Tan

   I miss LA almost immediately when I leave it, and I don’t even live there

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     Adrianna Tan (skinnylatte@hachyderm.io)'s status on Tuesday, 18-Feb-2025 16:20:25 JST Adrianna Tan

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     I think 5M people for me is comfortable, and 10+ in a metro area is great.

     I really don’t do well in smaller cities (I really struggled with SF for the first couple of years)

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     Adrianna Tan (skinnylatte@hachyderm.io)'s status on Tuesday, 18-Feb-2025 16:21:18 JST Adrianna Tan

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     I love the diversity and cacophony of mega city life, filled with people of all backgrounds, speaking dozens to hundreds of languages, with delicious food from places I have never heard of

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     Adrianna Tan (skinnylatte@hachyderm.io)'s status on Tuesday, 18-Feb-2025 16:22:33 JST Adrianna Tan

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     I’m certain I’ll take to Mexico City with a similar enthusiasm so I can’t wait to go. I miss Bombay, Jakarta, Bangkok

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     Adrianna Tan (skinnylatte@hachyderm.io)'s status on Tuesday, 18-Feb-2025 16:25:19 JST Adrianna Tan

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     I’ve learned to like quieter, smaller places, but the anonymity of giant cities, the presence of multitudes of people, the smells of everyone’s food, is everything that feels important to my own humanity. Being around people. Many of them. Eating a lot of their food!

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     Adrianna Tan (skinnylatte@hachyderm.io)'s status on Tuesday, 18-Feb-2025 16:27:39 JST Adrianna Tan

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     • John Stalker

     @SleepyCat I liked Auckland when I was there. We got married there. Not quite a mega city, but I took to it far more quickly than Wellington (which reminds me more of SF). Same with Sydney over Melbourne.

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     John Stalker (sleepycat@mk.absturztau.be)'s status on Tuesday, 18-Feb-2025 16:27:40 JST John Stalker

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     @skinnylatte@hachyderm.io Tāmaki Makaurau (Auckland) has some of that, despite very much not being a megacity.

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     Adrianna Tan (skinnylatte@hachyderm.io)'s status on Tuesday, 18-Feb-2025 16:34:48 JST Adrianna Tan

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     • Darohan

     @darohan I grew up somewhere where I would have struggled to have even eaten the same cuisine twice in a week (as that’s unacceptable), much less the same dish or type of food, so it’s been a culture shift for me coming here. I don’t feel it as acutely in SF / LA, but the idea that that’s the exception rather than the norm is hard for me to understand

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     Darohan (darohan@social.coop)'s status on Tuesday, 18-Feb-2025 16:34:50 JST Darohan

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     @skinnylatte I'm from the Not-Quite country originally ("country town" suburbs) and, having grown up listening to people talk about how much the city sucks, music and TV talking about "getting out of this city" and "escaping to the country" I've gotta say... I don't get it. Ilive in a city now, and it's so much better. I can actually take public transport or walk places. I live walking distance from places, stores, restaurants that wouldn't have even *been* in the town I grew up in (1/2)

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     Adrianna Tan (skinnylatte@hachyderm.io)'s status on Tuesday, 18-Feb-2025 16:36:42 JST Adrianna Tan

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     • Chuck Fry

     @SVChucko I brought some new Singapore expats to the Mission and Richmond. They looked around and said, why did you bring me to the suburbs?

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     Chuck Fry (svchucko@sfba.social)'s status on Tuesday, 18-Feb-2025 16:36:43 JST Chuck Fry

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     @skinnylatte An intern from Hong Kong worked at our facility for a year. He also found SF not big or dense enough to suit. He would travel to New York to get his fix of real urban life.

     L.A. has been getting denser for some time, but I still think of it as “a dozen suburbs in search of a downtown”.

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     Adrianna Tan (skinnylatte@hachyderm.io)'s status on Tuesday, 18-Feb-2025 16:43:45 JST Adrianna Tan

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     • Chuck Fry

     @SVChucko also the type and style of transit and physical space infra. New York and parts of Chicago feel most like London, HK, Singapore etc. even other big U.S. cities are super car / suburb centered with not the same types of walkability and density. I wouldn’t say Bombay or Jakarta are walkable either but it’s more about.. I dunno, some difference in philosophy? A lot of US life is about keeping people out, and others away, vs living side by side and sometimes uncomfortably

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     Chuck Fry (svchucko@sfba.social)'s status on Tuesday, 18-Feb-2025 16:43:46 JST Chuck Fry

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     @skinnylatte I’m not aware of many places in the US that have anywhere near that population density. NYC, yes, maybe Chicago. Beyond that? Off the top of my head, I can’t think of any.

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     Adrianna Tan (skinnylatte@hachyderm.io)'s status on Tuesday, 18-Feb-2025 16:49:51 JST Adrianna Tan

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     The way I like to live is, I like to go to restaurants where I don’t know anything on the menu, and if I see someone ordering something I don’t know, I like to order it to try it.

     I feel like that maps to every aspect of my life.

     Despite being autistic, my adhd animal brain is very much in charge here, and honestly? It’s amazing and fun