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   your auntifa liza 🇵🇷 🦛 🦦 (blogdiva@mastodon.social)'s status on Thursday, 16-Jan-2025 05:54:46 JST your auntifa liza 🇵🇷 🦛 🦦

   • Scalzi

   ❝ I needed to work out what was going on, and how a person I had as a friend had this other part to his life that was for me new and rotten information, and also there was the rest of my life to deal with, which is not insignificant. ❞
   https://whatever.scalzi.com/2025/01/15/taking-leave/

   so, am aware of the awfulness about Neil Gaiman and think this post by John @scalzi is a great example of how friends, who didn’t know, need to process the grief of losing a friend because of their revealed awfulness… 🧵

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     Kim Scheinberg (kims@mas.to)'s status on Thursday, 16-Jan-2025 07:40:16 JST Kim Scheinberg

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     • Scalzi

     @blogdiva @scalzi
     I had this happen and the grief of betrayal was unbearable. And it wasn't just the loss of the friendship, but the loss of trust in myself.

     For two years after the revelations I found myself saying, "How could I not have known? I must have known. Am I sure I didn't know? Was I willfully blind? I vouched for him. What's my complicity here?"

     I withdrew from most of my friends because I carried so much unearned guilt and felt infected by my ex-friend's toxicity.

     It's awful.

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     your auntifa liza 🇵🇷 🦛 🦦 (blogdiva@mastodon.social)'s status on Thursday, 16-Jan-2025 07:57:41 JST your auntifa liza 🇵🇷 🦛 🦦

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     grew up in the periphery of some really famous people, so i’ve always seen with suspicion the publicity that comes with fame.

     Scalzi’s post is a reminder that behind the fame, there are real people. that he, as a famous writer & personal friend of Gaiman, needed the time to process his disappointment & grief over losing, not just one of his friends, but someone who became part of his chosen writing family.

     breaking up a friendship IS traumatic.

     let the man grieve. /🧵

     Rocketman repeated this.
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     your auntifa liza 🇵🇷 🦛 🦦 (blogdiva@mastodon.social)'s status on Thursday, 16-Jan-2025 07:57:41 JST your auntifa liza 🇵🇷 🦛 🦦

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     PS:

     LET MEN GRIEVE

     as a mother of sons, my #1 job is to protect them from the violence of patriarchy. to make wherever i am HOME, a safe space for them to manifest themselves, intellectually, artistically, emotionally.

     LET MEN GRIEVE

     there is nothing more toxic than to demand men white knight at the drop of the hat; even more so with one of their friends.

     guys suffer their broken friendships because they do lose a chosen bro(ther).

     LET MEN GRIEVE

     and fuck patriarchy