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   Adrianna Tan (skinnylatte@hachyderm.io)'s status on Monday, 02-Dec-2024 15:27:59 JST Adrianna Tan

   /r/Adulting is full of probably very depressed people posting about how it sucks to be an adult when actually it sucks fo have depression

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     Adrianna Tan (skinnylatte@hachyderm.io)'s status on Monday, 02-Dec-2024 15:29:52 JST Adrianna Tan

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     /r/Frugal is full of very cheap people who should probably get financial therapy because it’s financial trauma cosplaying as frugality (I love frugality! But some of those folks.. are not frugal, they are obsessed with never spending money!)

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     Adrianna Tan (skinnylatte@hachyderm.io)'s status on Monday, 02-Dec-2024 15:32:34 JST Adrianna Tan

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     • Jay

     @essentiallyjay ‘I don’t want to spend money so I never socialize’ well sorry buddy you chose social loneliness over some kind of hoarding / scarcity mindset

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     Jay (essentiallyjay@jayesh.info)'s status on Monday, 02-Dec-2024 15:32:35 JST Jay

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     @skinnylatte I saw that.

     It's surreal.

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     Adrianna Tan (skinnylatte@hachyderm.io)'s status on Monday, 02-Dec-2024 15:34:11 JST Adrianna Tan

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     I have a lot of empathy for people like that coz I have been around many depressed people and people with severe financial trauma (and I have also been depressed, and have also had to really re-examine my relationship with money, which is why I’m on those subs in the first place)

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     Adrianna Tan (skinnylatte@hachyderm.io)'s status on Monday, 02-Dec-2024 15:35:14 JST Adrianna Tan

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     It reminds me of the ‘personal finance’ people who are like move to the lowest COL (cost of living) state with no jobs, buy a house, because home ownership is the most important, who cares if you have any friends and family and social networks you don’t need people you just need money

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     Adrianna Tan (skinnylatte@hachyderm.io)'s status on Monday, 02-Dec-2024 15:46:09 JST Adrianna Tan

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     • Just Boby

     @boby_biq I think everyone has some kind of financial trauma of some kind. If you grew up poor, you might still feel like everything is going to be lost if you eat something nice once. Or you might go the other way and really develop shopping addictions. There’s a lot of people in the frugal lifestyle who have scarcity mindset even when they are rich, sometimes to the extent of ignoring social connections completely or writing off people not like them

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     Just Boby (boby_biq@toot.community)'s status on Monday, 02-Dec-2024 15:46:10 JST Just Boby

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     @skinnylatte “Financial trauma”? Like, experienced financial hardship/being poor and that bc of that someone would be afraid of spending?

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     Adrianna Tan (skinnylatte@hachyderm.io)'s status on Monday, 02-Dec-2024 15:49:47 JST Adrianna Tan

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     • May Likes Toronto

     And yes, @MayInToronto is right that there is a huge overlap between adult life and figuring out how to deal with loneliness. I’m not dunking on that. I’m saying that everyone can do better with a bit more introspection. I think the adult loneliness epidemic is global, and going to get worse.

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     Adrianna Tan (skinnylatte@hachyderm.io)'s status on Monday, 02-Dec-2024 15:52:36 JST Adrianna Tan

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     • Just Boby

     @boby_biq many people are! I am! We all are to an extent!

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     Just Boby (boby_biq@toot.community)'s status on Monday, 02-Dec-2024 15:52:37 JST Just Boby

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     @skinnylatte Thanks, I just didn’t know what it was, also re reading my reply it wasn’t super clear.

     (I am weird with money 🙈)

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     Adrianna Tan (skinnylatte@hachyderm.io)'s status on Monday, 02-Dec-2024 15:53:05 JST Adrianna Tan

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     • Cute Tea🍵

     @watcher also!

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     Cute Tea🍵 (watcher@dvd.chat)'s status on Monday, 02-Dec-2024 15:53:10 JST Cute Tea🍵

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     @skinnylatte@hachyderm.io I’ve done some introspection and decided it’s more a “structural” problem.