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A Ray of Light in a Tough Week

Starting a new job is always nerve-wracking, but as a trans woman, it comes with even more complexities. During my recruitment process, I avoided any direct discussion about my gender—not out of fear, but because I wanted my skills and experience to speak first. From day one, I’ve been presenting as myself, fully female, but without any direct conversations about my pronouns or identity.

Yesterday, during a meeting, my manager started referring to me with they/them pronouns. It was a small but incredibly affirming moment. Afterward, he asked to speak with me privately and kindly inquired about my preferred pronouns. I let him know that I prefer she/her but that they/them also works. I thanked him for making the effort not to misgender me.

In today’s meeting, he used she/her pronouns without missing a beat. It’s hard to put into words how meaningful that was—being seen and respected in this way.

This week hasn’t been easy. Between the challenges of starting a new job, losing power at home after a storm, spoiled food, and crowded grocery stores, I’ve been feeling pretty drained. But this recognition of my gender has been a ray of light in an otherwise dark week.

Here’s to progress, kindness, and the little moments that remind us we’re moving in the right direction. 💖

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