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   Melissa BearTrix (melissabeartrix@hugz.online)'s status on Wednesday, 13-Nov-2024 06:24:18 JST Melissa BearTrix

   A guy I ran into on the way back from the nice cafe, he had a asshats coffee

   AH - I don't see you at {transphobe coffee shop}

   Me - I don't buy stuff from, homophobic and transphobic shops

   AH - they make good coffee

   Me - Hitler had great drugs

   Hugz & xXx

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     Rocketman (slothrop@chaos.social)'s status on Wednesday, 13-Nov-2024 06:24:13 JST Rocketman

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     • Saupreiss #Präparat500

     @Saupreiss @Melissabeartrix I mean, once you’ve been told they’re transphobic, you can just not go there again?

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     Saupreiss #Präparat500 (saupreiss@pfalz.social)'s status on Wednesday, 13-Nov-2024 06:24:17 JST Saupreiss #Präparat500

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     @Melissabeartrix Bear with me if that may sound like a dumb question:

     How do cis folks recognize a transphobe coffee shop? I mean, they don't put signs up, do they?

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     Rocketman (slothrop@chaos.social)'s status on Wednesday, 13-Nov-2024 06:28:00 JST Rocketman

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     • Saupreiss #Präparat500

     @Saupreiss @Melissabeartrix If the random stranger is a trans person, I’ll just believe them. They presumably know what they’re talking about.

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     Saupreiss #Präparat500 (saupreiss@pfalz.social)'s status on Wednesday, 13-Nov-2024 06:28:01 JST Saupreiss #Präparat500

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     • Rocketman

     @slothrop

     Depends on how much I believe in the report I guess. Being able to spot hints is definitively better than what some random stranger says.

     @Melissabeartrix

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     sortius (sortius@mastodon.social)'s status on Wednesday, 13-Nov-2024 06:31:17 JST sortius

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     • Rocketman
     • Saupreiss #Präparat500

     @slothrop @Saupreiss @Melissabeartrix yeh, it's no different to when a woman tells a man a dude is "a bit creepy".

     Shit guys question it, and refuse to accept it, the decent guys say "ok, I'll make sure you never have to be around them again".

     A shit ally says "I'll have to figure that out for myself", a decent ally says "I believe you"

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     Rocketman (slothrop@chaos.social)'s status on Wednesday, 13-Nov-2024 06:34:52 JST Rocketman

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     • Saupreiss #Präparat500

     @Saupreiss @Melissabeartrix To me, it’s far more simple than all that.

     A friend of mine is big-time into cars. A pro. When I tell him about that sound my car makes, and he says to take it to the shop, I’ll believe him. Because he knows what he’s talking about.

     When a trans person tells me that someone is being an asshole, I’ll believe them. They’re having to deal with assholes all day, every day. They know what they’re talking about.

     This strategy has never failed me.

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     Saupreiss #Präparat500 (saupreiss@pfalz.social)'s status on Wednesday, 13-Nov-2024 06:34:53 JST Saupreiss #Präparat500

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     • Rocketman

     @slothrop

     True - then again, being trans doesn't make a person more trustworthy per se than anyone else, so I would probably take that as an opinion.

     Don't get me wrong. Beyond the tolerance paradox, I prefer NOT to hang out with anyone where hate is actually worth anything.

     @Melissabeartrix