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   JP (jplebreton@mastodon.social)'s status on Thursday, 17-Oct-2024 05:35:04 JST JP

   To speak within my lane: cis men, one thing we can do to help with the many missing stairs in our communities is to stand up and use the authority we're granted, by being men, to make it clear when behavior/speech we see isn't acceptable. It can be scary and uncomfortable, but usually less so for us than for those more vulnerable. And "pre visualization" works: you can make it less scary if you decide ahead of time, mentally rehearse it effectively, that you're going to do it...

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     JP (jplebreton@mastodon.social)'s status on Thursday, 17-Oct-2024 05:35:25 JST JP

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     Eg if you're in a social setting, at a conference, and some guy says something inappropriate to a woman in your group, you can say "that's inappropriate" or "we don't say things like that in this community". Don't make it about you, don't make it about the person targeted by the inappropriate comment, make it about the behavior. Decide now that you will do this, even if the man is powerful or well-liked, even if he's someone you respect or owe something to career-wise. I promise you can do this.