to put this another way, I think one of the greatest strengths of the fediverse (and in community in general) is to empower people. I run a small single user instance and I feel empowered on this social network. I want new people with entirely different perspectives to have access to that same type of power. Even if I don't understand them. As the saying goes: "all power to all the people".
I remember when Lynn Cyrin and I started toot.cat we were getting a lot of flack for pushing for having a detailed CoC that was inclusive of sex workers, furries, non-english speakers, etc and would not hesitate to tell "free speech" instances to eff-off. It was a change in how instance guidelines and compliance were done, and there was a lot of fear.
Things changed from that (not only or even mainly because of Lynn and I), and that was good.
I hate the term "eternal september" because of what it represents. Things change. We can make them better. We can rebuild in the ashes of the old. I don't want to be culturally stagnant forever.