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   Evan Prodromou (evan@cosocial.ca)'s status on Monday, 19-Aug-2024 12:58:53 JST Evan Prodromou

   So, look. I get it. Someone just posted a note talking about their interest in a topic, and you want to reply with advice, even though you're pretty sure it's unwanted and unwelcome. But you have such good advice to share in such a clever way! It's excruciating to restrain yourself from replying. What to do?

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     Evan Prodromou (evan@cosocial.ca)'s status on Monday, 19-Aug-2024 13:02:44 JST Evan Prodromou

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     The answer is to post your advice in its own thread. Don't tag or name the person you're trying not to reply to. Don't mention them at all. Just say, "If your washing machine leaks, replace the hoses and seal the connectors." Say it out of the blue, no context. Send it and forget it.

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     Evan Prodromou (evan@cosocial.ca)'s status on Monday, 19-Aug-2024 13:07:35 JST Evan Prodromou

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     This has two positive parts.

     First, you got to say your thing. Whew!

     Second, if the person who you were trying not to reply to is serious, they're going to search on the topic. And there's your post, right at the top of the results page.

     They feel smart because they proactively found the answer. They might even thank you! Well, probably not, but at least they didn't block you.

     Anyway: post, don't reply. Don't forget!

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     Evan Prodromou (evan@cosocial.ca)'s status on Monday, 19-Aug-2024 13:17:31 JST Evan Prodromou

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     • Rabbit Cohen

     @BathysphereHat just post it in its own thread like you coincidentally thought of it for no reason. People post random ideas and facts all the time.

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     Rabbit Cohen (bathyspherehat@mastodon.online)'s status on Monday, 19-Aug-2024 13:17:32 JST Rabbit Cohen

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     @evan This is one of the reasons that sometimes I type replies out and then delete them instead of posting them.

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     Archnemysis (archnemysis@mastodon.social)'s status on Monday, 19-Aug-2024 20:51:56 JST Archnemysis

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     @evan I am never going to understand this desire for people to not be social on a social media app.

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     Evan Prodromou (evan@cosocial.ca)'s status on Monday, 19-Aug-2024 20:51:56 JST Evan Prodromou

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     • Archnemysis

     @Archnemysis for me, I find it irritating to ask a specific question and get back a lot of non sequiturs, jokes, or topic changes. Sometimes I'd like to talk about things I find interesting with people who are as knowledgeable and engaged as I am.

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     Evan Prodromou (evan@cosocial.ca)'s status on Monday, 19-Aug-2024 20:55:45 JST Evan Prodromou

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     • Archnemysis

     @Archnemysis there's also the problem of over-familiarity that comes from the parasocial relationship. People will make what would seem to be playful teasing if they came from friends or family but come off as hostile from strangers.

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     Evan Prodromou (evan@cosocial.ca)'s status on Tuesday, 20-Aug-2024 12:50:16 JST Evan Prodromou

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     • heartlessgamer

     @heartlessgamer love it

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     heartlessgamer (heartlessgamer@gamepad.club)'s status on Tuesday, 20-Aug-2024 12:50:17 JST heartlessgamer

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     @evan An excellent prompt for "Staying Motivated" week of #Blaugust2024 !

     https://www.heartlessgamer.com/2024/08/blaugust-2024-staying-motivated.html

     Thanks for the inspiration!