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   ruin (ruin@mai.waifuism.life)'s status on Tuesday, 09-Jul-2024 09:54:03 JST ruin

   This isn’t a place to make friends for me, really no place is, I seem to be simply incapable of forming close human connections, what do I do about this inability

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     kaia (kaia@brotka.st)'s status on Tuesday, 09-Jul-2024 09:54:02 JST kaia

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     @ruin therapy can help considerably. first find out the "why", then with e.g. CBT use exercises for the "how".
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     kaia (kaia@brotka.st)'s status on Tuesday, 09-Jul-2024 10:03:42 JST kaia

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     @ruin you can read books on CBT and learn the techniques for free, but sadly without extrinsic motivation and accountability it often fails.
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     ruin (ruin@mai.waifuism.life)'s status on Tuesday, 09-Jul-2024 10:03:43 JST ruin

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     @kaia@brotka.st sorry you are right that is the answer I’m just doom mode

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     ruin (ruin@mai.waifuism.life)'s status on Tuesday, 09-Jul-2024 10:03:44 JST ruin

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     • kaia

     @kaia@brotka.st my last therapist dumped me, but ya I guess I can just search around and spend hundreds a month

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     ruin (ruin@mai.waifuism.life)'s status on Tuesday, 09-Jul-2024 10:16:00 JST ruin

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     @kaia@brotka.st ya I’m isolated and don’t really have close friends or relationships so… like how do I even address it and then no one wants to be around me because of that so chicken egg sorta thing

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     kaia (kaia@brotka.st)'s status on Tuesday, 09-Jul-2024 10:16:00 JST kaia

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     @ruin understandable. if you think you can do it, I'd recommend volunteering. you'll meet new acquaintances, they are there of their own volition, you are working together helping for a common good cause, can avoid small talk if you want by talking shop aaand you'll meet a lot of potential friends.