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   kaia (kaia@brotka.st)'s status on Friday, 05-Jul-2024 00:14:04 JST kaia
   > The Ethical Slut: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships & Other Adventures
   > Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy
   
   let's see whether I get those somewhere :fernread: very interesting!
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     (NekoSock) Miya Ironami (iro_miya@mk.absturztau.be)'s status on Friday, 05-Jul-2024 00:15:24 JST (NekoSock) Miya Ironami

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     @kaia@brotka.st we have a physical copy of polysecure but I haven't read it yet

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     on-lain ✔ᵛᵉʳᶦᶠᶦᵉᵈ (lain@lain.com)'s status on Friday, 05-Jul-2024 00:16:26 JST on-lain ✔ᵛᵉʳᶦᶠᶦᵉᵈ

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     @kaia don't forget to look up the personal lives of the authors
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     kaia (kaia@brotka.st)'s status on Friday, 05-Jul-2024 00:21:03 JST kaia

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     first one's authors seem surprisingly qualified.
     
     > Their other works include When Someone You Love is Kinky, The New Bottoming Book, The New Topping Book, and Radical Ecstasy.
     
     https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dossie_Easton
     https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Janet_Hardy
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     taylor (nik@misskey.bubbletea.dev)'s status on Friday, 05-Jul-2024 01:48:04 JST taylor

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     @kaia@brotka.st the ethical slut is good, my bf bought the second one I should read it too cause he seemed to have stopped making progress lol

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     kaia (kaia@brotka.st)'s status on Friday, 05-Jul-2024 01:48:34 JST kaia

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     @nik progress in the book or progress in becoming an ethical slug? :aismug:
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     miauz genyau (mia@movsw.0x0.st)'s status on Friday, 05-Jul-2024 01:48:40 JST miauz genyau

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     @kaia i’ve read most of the first one (skipped sections i wasn’t interested in) and i think the value is in the self-care advice. i think it makes a good attempt at helping readers overcome insecure attachment in their relationships

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     miauz genyau (mia@movsw.0x0.st)'s status on Friday, 05-Jul-2024 01:48:46 JST miauz genyau

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     @kaia it doesn’t really concern itself with trauma though, so judging by the title maybe the other book is a better resource for the average fedi person

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     taylor (nik@misskey.bubbletea.dev)'s status on Friday, 05-Jul-2024 01:51:07 JST taylor

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     @kaia@brotka.st his progress is hindered by the lack of anyone cool to date in this city. also his social anxiety >:( I've flirted with the one crush he's told me about more than he has smh.

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     kaia (kaia@brotka.st)'s status on Friday, 05-Jul-2024 01:51:07 JST kaia

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     @nik ohh my bf is the same. when he physically likes someone he's super shy and I flirt with them way more too :KroosEvil:
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     taylor (nik@misskey.bubbletea.dev)'s status on Friday, 05-Jul-2024 01:57:08 JST taylor

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     @kaia@brotka.st my bf needs to be shut in a room with someone he likes for weeks on end before he'll make a move smh smh. I made him kiss me first and it took like at least an hour of us lying down nose-to-nose in the dark before he did it heh.

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     kaia (kaia@brotka.st)'s status on Friday, 05-Jul-2024 01:57:53 JST kaia

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     :mukiCute: bfs you adopt are the best bfs
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     taylor (nik@misskey.bubbletea.dev)'s status on Friday, 05-Jul-2024 01:59:25 JST taylor

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     @kaia@brotka.st he is more ethically slutty experienced than I am tho, before we started dating he was in a throuple

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     kaia (kaia@brotka.st)'s status on Friday, 05-Jul-2024 01:59:43 JST kaia

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     @nik that's good! way better than dating someone with no experience :comfy:
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     taylor (nik@misskey.bubbletea.dev)'s status on Friday, 05-Jul-2024 02:01:06 JST taylor

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     @kaia@brotka.st yea I really don't envy people who try to figure out non-monogamy within the context of a pre-existing monogamous relationship

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     miauz genyau (mia@movsw.0x0.st)'s status on Friday, 05-Jul-2024 02:10:15 JST miauz genyau

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     @nik @kaia just flipped through a few pages of polysecure and it looks like a good thing to read after the ethical slut

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