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   Chicken :cqlgusu: (lookitmychicken@blorbo.social)'s status on Saturday, 23-Mar-2024 07:15:32 JST Chicken :cqlgusu:

   Seungmin is my perfect polyamorous jealousy-free boy who likes kink & also vanilla, and has 6 boyfriends that he loves very much in different ways.

   Han is *not* Seungmin's boyfriend.

   Seungmin loves Han too, but sometimes he gets pissed off at him.

   Because Han is the one member who cannot deal with polyamory. He loves all the members too, but wants only one boyfriend (Lee Know).

   LK is okay with polyam but Han's his soulmate & primary partner & highest relationship priority.

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     Chicken :cqlgusu: (lookitmychicken@blorbo.social)'s status on Saturday, 23-Mar-2024 07:32:26 JST Chicken :cqlgusu:

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     So there are times when there's a lot of tension between Han & Seungmin.

     SM understands monogamy on an intellectual level but not at a gut level. He sees LK trying his best to make Han happy while also wanting to have more physical relationships with other members.

     LK is attracted to all the members and would act on that attraction more often if Han was okay with it.

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     Chicken :cqlgusu: (lookitmychicken@blorbo.social)'s status on Saturday, 23-Mar-2024 07:38:16 JST Chicken :cqlgusu:

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     But Han can't help being monogamous, it's the way he is. He can't be in love with LK & at the same time be cool with LK fucking around.

     So there's an on-again off-again primary relationship between Han & LK, and no configuration that is entirely satisfactory to everyone involved.

     Han & LK can be:
     - together & exclusive (no-one else gets any LK action)
     - together & not exclusive (which distresses Han, & thereby distresses LK)
     - not together (intolerable for both, cos soulmates)

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     Chicken :cqlgusu: (lookitmychicken@blorbo.social)'s status on Saturday, 23-Mar-2024 07:45:40 JST Chicken :cqlgusu:

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     Most of the other members are okay with letting Han & LK work this out on their own.

     But Seungmin struggles with it, a bit. He has so much love for all the members, & wants them all to be happy & loved-up to their hearts' content.

     He can't help but feel frustrated that there's no solution where everyone gets that.

     Han is an easy target for that frustration. If Han would stop being jealous, then LK would be happier.

     But also SM knows that this is unfair to Han.

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     Chicken :cqlgusu: (lookitmychicken@blorbo.social)'s status on Saturday, 23-Mar-2024 07:51:59 JST Chicken :cqlgusu:

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     SM knows that this is unfair to Han. But he can't quite accept Han's jealousy either.

     So there's a tension between them always, and it might not ever get resolved. Or only after a few more years of personal growth & maturity & all that stuff.

     (I have a whole-ass document with my RPF thoughts on which skz are into which other skz & what their dyamics & kinks are. Which could turn into fic at some point? Unclear.)