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   Yohan Yukiya Sese Cuneta 사요한🦣 (youronlyone@c.im)'s status on Wednesday, 28-Feb-2024 23:39:17 JST Yohan Yukiya Sese Cuneta 사요한🦣

   • Actually Autistics

   A good read: https://www.cnbc.com/2023/02/07/neuroscientist-shares-coveted-skills-that-set-introverts-apart-their-brains-work-differently.html

   To quote two:
   “If your workplace is dominated by extroverts who criticize those who prefer to work alone — or skip after-work cocktails — as “not team players,” it may inadvertently alienate gifted people.”

   “there is no difference in conforming responses given to high- and low-pressure levels by introverts.”

   It feels like they described #autistic me. Then again, I'm an #INFP ( / #Introvert) type of autistic, so it fits.

   In addition, I experienced that “not team players” from some managers from a certain company years ago. I don't join after-work cocktails, or any party, and was branded as “not a team player” by some of those in position. I was actually very glad I did not because I later found out they force people to drink, and I can't because I have #gout (other than the fact, you can't make me drink if I don't want to).

   Anyway. What about you, my fellow #ActuallyAutistics? Or, are you an extrovert autistic yet still find similarities from the article and studies mentioned in it?

   => Source and originally shared by: https://boing.world/@denny/112009527257501232

   @autistics@fedigroups.social @actuallyautistic @autistics@chirp.social

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     Yohan Yukiya Sese Cuneta 사요한🦣 (youronlyone@c.im)'s status on Wednesday, 28-Feb-2024 23:55:21 JST Yohan Yukiya Sese Cuneta 사요한🦣

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     • V'ger
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     @vger

     Exactly! I don't understand what being a “team player” has to do with after-work events. Is not being a team player (or not) based on how we work when we're on the clock? After-work is personal time already, and in cases like you mentioned, short notice, 99% a “no” from me as well.

     @autistics@fedigroups.social @actuallyautistic @autistics@chirp.social

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     V'ger (vger@social.daemonlair.org)'s status on Wednesday, 28-Feb-2024 23:55:23 JST V'ger

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     @youronlyone I hate after-work-events. In fact, there was only one company where I joined those events. The only reason I did it was because I really liked the team.

     Then there was that other company, where on my first day they invited me to an after work barbecue and I refused because of the short notice. First thing I was asked was "Are you not a team player?". Needless to say I never got warm with that team.

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     maya_b (maya_b@hachyderm.io)'s status on Thursday, 29-Feb-2024 01:46:29 JST maya_b

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     @youronlyone @autistics@fedigroups.social @actuallyautistic @autistics@chirp.social
     Susain Cain's "Quiet" delves into this much more.

     I always pushed for work lunches or during the day activities, rather than "optional" after work activites. There are so many reasons why this works out better, child care, alcoholism recovery, I'm not getting paid for this time, etc., that lunch events solve.

     The Guardian published a study where men who drank with bosses after work made 11% more than those who didn't, women made 14% more.

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     Yohan Yukiya Sese Cuneta 사요한🦣 (youronlyone@c.im)'s status on Thursday, 29-Feb-2024 01:52:37 JST Yohan Yukiya Sese Cuneta 사요한🦣

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     @maya_b @autistics@fedigroups.social @actuallyautistic @autistics@chirp.social

     > Susain Cain's "Quiet" delves into this much more.

     Thank you! I'll look for it! ^_^

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     Good point, we have lunch for those. And if a manager thinks some socialisation is required, they also have the power to change some schedule for socialisation; or schedule a team building.

     I recalled in one job, the manager eats his lunch at the same time as the subordinate he wants to socialise with. He adjusted himself instead of the employee. And in some instances, he just brings food for our team so we have a reason to be in the pantry together, and talk and relax. It was a good team (and I learned a lot from him as well).

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     > The Guardian published a study where men who drank with bosses after work made 11% more than those who didn't, women made 14% more.

     Wow! That's interesting. Thank you for sharing that!