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   Tokyo Outsider (337ppm) (tokyo_0@mas.to)'s status on Tuesday, 13-Feb-2024 17:35:52 JST Tokyo Outsider (337ppm)

   Anyone got any good resources for phrases to help de-escalate conflict and foster a more explorative, collaborative mood?

   Recently I read someone say they respond with "Are you ok?". And I just saw someone reply to an unhelpful comment with "Can you talk more about X and Y?" (X and Y being things they mentioned).

   Knowing more phrases like this would really help me. Would be grateful for any pointers to more, and/or good ways to express one's own challenging ideas. Boosts also appreciated🙏

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     When We Vote We Win (carrots@toot.community)'s status on Tuesday, 13-Feb-2024 18:04:43 JST When We Vote We Win

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     @tokyo_0 what a good question. Thanks for asking it.

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     Joe Cooper 💾 (swelljoe@mas.to)'s status on Tuesday, 13-Feb-2024 18:28:16 JST Joe Cooper 💾

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     @tokyo_0 there's a book (and a cult) called Nonviolent Communication, which you might find helpful. I think one has to take it in measured doses and integrate the ideas slowly and as appropriate for what you need right now...as embracing it all at once can be weird to those who know you. But, the basic premise of communicating from a place of empathy is sound, and it has a lot of tools for approaching conversations that way.

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     TinDrum (oscarjiminy@aus.social)'s status on Tuesday, 13-Feb-2024 19:10:02 JST TinDrum

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     @tokyo_0 something that I’ve observed (both passively and as an interlocutor), is that folks who go out of their way to validate the other person generally quell any potential of inflammation. Obv not always possible (and takes time and energy) but is remarkably effective from what I have seen