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   abadidea (0xabad1dea@infosec.exchange)'s status on Friday, 02-Feb-2024 09:19:52 JST abadidea

   I do a lot of online community crisis resolution and 50% of it can be resolved by asking the party in crisis what timezone they’re in and then kindly but firmly telling them to go to bed

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     abadidea (0xabad1dea@infosec.exchange)'s status on Friday, 02-Feb-2024 09:19:56 JST abadidea

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     I cannot emphasize this enough: if you are having a panic attack about the general state of your life - academics, your job, your relationship with anyone - and it's 9 pm or later, GO TO BED. Don't @ me with your special case objection that willfully misses the point, go the fuck to bed and consider what if anything needs to be done when well-rested and well-fed

     I have had more personal crises than is advisable to admit to and so have many of my friends, I guarantee this is coming from extensive experience

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     Jochie 👨🏻‍💻🏳️‍🌈 (jochie@strangeweb.page)'s status on Sunday, 29-Jun-2025 15:53:43 JST Jochie 👨🏻‍💻🏳️‍🌈

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     @0xabad1dea So a bit like this one (not mine, but no idea where it started):

     If you feel like you hate everyone:

     Eat something

     If you feel like everyone hates you:

     Go to sleep

     If you feel like you hate yourself:

     Have a shower

     If you feel like everyone hates everyone:

     Go outside

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     Ysegrim (ysegrim@furry.engineer)'s status on Sunday, 29-Jun-2025 16:03:12 JST Ysegrim

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     @falcennial @0xabad1dea This. "Sleeping over this email" saved my job probably a lot more than just once.

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     millennial falcon (falcennial@mastodon.social)'s status on Sunday, 29-Jun-2025 16:03:13 JST millennial falcon

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     @0xabad1dea ooh I like that rule. it couldnt be simpler and never misses.

     I got a similar one: I don't make decisions or judgements at the book ends of the day. only the middle bit when I'm completely on.

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     Rocketman (slothrop@chaos.social)'s status on Sunday, 29-Jun-2025 16:14:20 JST Rocketman

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     @0xabad1dea my wife and I have a longstanding rule that if we start arguing, we pause the conflict, check if one of us is hungry, and eat something first.

     I can only recommend this approach.

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