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   🎓 Doc Freemo :jpf: 🇳🇱 (freemo@qoto.org)'s status on Monday, 29-Jan-2024 00:36:55 JST 🎓 Doc Freemo :jpf: 🇳🇱

   LOL

   Them: "Hey lets stop talking"
   me: "Ok, bye"
   Them: "BLARG how dare you speak to me, BLOCKED!"

   LOL cant even make this shit up with these idiots.
   QT: https://mastodon.social/@augieray/111834307993110617

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     IMPROVE PEOPLE _NOT JUST TECH_ (freeschool@qoto.org)'s status on Monday, 29-Jan-2024 03:59:18 JST IMPROVE PEOPLE _NOT JUST TECH_

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     @freemo Blocking too easy... in sensitive conversations...

     Kind of understand this blocking (or easy to trip blocking / 'sensitive' stuff) for the recipient,
     even in occasional cases it's sincere they can't handle even the ok message to their ending conversation...

     e.g. I get this often when letting people know I am thinking of unsubscribing / less following them (as I value them enough sometimes to put them on notifications 🔔 and get all their msgs notified to me) but they tell me I didn't need to tell them this (true) but they don't see it's because I wanted to stick with them for x (as usually I explain beforehand) more than getting abcdef...x

     It almost like not wanting to build up or find more people, or get more - just broadcasting 1 way or staying small...

     So people can get the wrong idea if not solid in themself basically

     but /occasionally/ also thin margin /sometimes/ (if people are totally not looking to grow out of their shell or grow to other people) and in that case they enlightened by me somewhat it's not a 'rub your face in' message!

     p.s #1 @freemo The quote doesn't go to your conversation naturally on clicking, so you could drop link where it was originally you were talking...

     p.s #2 if you tell me anything in reply I will block you and take it as attempted contempt :)

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     Hexnut (ambihelical@qoto.org)'s status on Monday, 29-Jan-2024 04:23:32 JST Hexnut

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     @freemo Yeah he did seem to turn quickly. As a critique of the interaction, maybe this set him off, you seem to be implying he's being PA, whereas I *think* you were saying you appreciated that he wasn't being PA? I'm used to your style of communication, and I am still not sure.

     "You are welcome. Best way to end a conversation you have nothing further to add to is simply by not speaking. Comes across a little passive aggressive otherwise."

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     🎓 Doc Freemo :jpf: 🇳🇱 (freemo@qoto.org)'s status on Monday, 29-Jan-2024 04:25:46 JST 🎓 Doc Freemo :jpf: 🇳🇱

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     • Hexnut

     @ambihelical

     Neither. I was just pointing out explicitly stating you are ending the conversation is unneeded. If you have nothing left to add, then dont respond.

     He was set off because he was trying to be passive aggressive and say "you arent welcome to contact me" but he wasnt using his adult voice and assumed people should read his mind.

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     Hexnut (ambihelical@qoto.org)'s status on Monday, 29-Jan-2024 04:43:44 JST Hexnut

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     @freemo On your interpretation: perhaps. I find it hard to get those subtleties via text interactions (and irl as well), so I try to assume the best until they are blunt about something. Seems to keep things on the rails, but it's hard at times.

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     🎓 Doc Freemo :jpf: 🇳🇱 (freemo@qoto.org)'s status on Monday, 29-Jan-2024 04:46:14 JST 🎓 Doc Freemo :jpf: 🇳🇱

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     • Hexnut

     @ambihelical Yea I assume the best too. I gave him the benefit of the doubt right up until that last message.